Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Our Lives Are About Relationships

And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, "Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my heavenly Father is my brother, and sister, and mother." Matthew 12:49-50

Shortly after I had become a lector at my local parish I volunteered to read on the Monday evening masses during  Lent. 
I thought that I would add this little offering to my list of “things I would do for God” during these 40 days. Little did I know that in reality, He was going to do something  great for for me.

When that first Monday rolled around, I found myself a bit nervous, and I was watching the priest carefully after the opening prayers and such, so that I would walk up to the pulpit at the right time  when he took his seat. 

As I stood up, I noticed a tall elderly woman, about eighty years old, in the first row.  She had the thickest head of blond curls I had ever seen, and she was motioning me with her arm, as if to say, “come on and hurry up”!
Apparently, she thought I needed some direction.

During the reading, I couldn’t help but notice that she was watching me intently. And when I walked back to my seat she smiled at me and nodded her head, as if in approval.

When the mass ended and those present started to leave, she walked up to me and introduced herself. Her name, she told me, was Dorothy; her friends called her Dottie. She too, was a lector at the parish and had been a former school teacher there, as well, for twelve years.

Proudly she told me that she went back to finish her college degree at the age of 55, after her husband had left her. I must have given her a look of surprise when she said this to me because she quickly added, “those were the best years of my life”…

We became instant friends. She told me she loved her grandchildren, bingo, romance novels, and the TV show “The Bachelor”…. She was truly a character!

It was about 4 or 5 months later that we finally got the opportunity to lector together at the 10:30 a.m. Sunday morning mass. 

It would be the only time we ever read together.

Not long after that, on a Saturday, I got a call from one of the parishioners. Dottie had been playing bingo at a near by church the night before and had suffered a stroke .An ambulance had been called immediately and she was rushed to the hospital.

I grabbed my purse and jumped into my car, and drove down to the hospital as quickly as I could. 

When I arrived, she was lying in bed with IV tubes in her arms and was hooked up to a heart monitor.  Her daughter was there too; the poor girl  looked completely frazzled.

The stroke had affected Dottie’s speech. Communication was very difficult. She desperately wanted to say something to me, but she couldn't. I told that everything was fine, that she didn’t need to speak. We could just enjoy our time there together.

With that, she seemed to relax and we spent the remainder of the time quietly being together. For me it was a gifted moment.

As the time came for me to leave, I kissed her on the forehead and said goodbye. "Get some rest" I said. " I'll be  be back in a couple of days."

Her eyes followed me to the door and she smiled at me. It was the most beautiful smile I had ever been given.

A couple days later, unexpected complications set in. After receiving the Sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick, Dottie passed away in the hospital. Her daughter and grandchildren were by her side….God had motioned for her to come up and join Him in heaven....There is no doubt that she is up there praying for all the people that had become her brothers, sister, mother.Yes,indeed,  she is praying for everyone that had become her family.

Our lives are about relationships. And, every day presents us with an opportunity to act with love and compassion to our brothers and sister.

God brings people in and out of our lives at different times and for different reasons. Every human person has something to share with us. Every person is gift.

And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my heavenly Father is my brother, and sister, and mother.”Matthew 12: 49-50

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Called by God

O Holy Spirit, Soul of my soul I adore you.
Enlighten, guide, strengthen and console me.
Tell me what I ought to do,
 then command me to do it.
I promise to be submissive in all that You ask of me,
And to accept all that You permit to happen to me; only show me what is Your will. 

If you have ever been an expectant parent, you have, no doubt, spent countless hours thumbing through baby name books, searching for the perfect name for your child. This name will say something unique about your child. For example, my son Michael is named after his father. His father was named after his Italian grandmother, Michelina, meaning “who is like God”, as with Michael the Archangel, warrior of Heaven, defender and protector. I think this name suits both my men.

In the Jewish culture, a person’s name is chosen to represent the essence and character of the person.1 When the angel Gabriel appeared to Mary (or “Miriam,” as she was called in Hebrew), he called her “full of grace”. The state of her soul was pure. She was preserved from the stain of original sin. She was full of love, and humble obedience to God, caring for all that was entrusted to her.

“I am the handmaid of the Lord; be it done unto me according to your word” Lk 1:38

Her “yes” proclaimed in humble submission to the will of the Father, allowed redemptive grace to enter the world and alter the destiny of mankind.2
Just as Mary was called by God to carry Christ in her womb, so are you and I called to carry Him “in the womb of our heart” and to bear Him to others given our particular state in life. For me, I believe that I am called to bear Him to my husband, my children and grandchildren. I am to bear Him to my neighbors at home and at work through means of kindness, silent prayer for their families and hospitality. Maybe you are thinking of your own call right now.

Everyday, you and I have a choice to say “yes” to God’s call for us, just like Mary did. Every single day is a new beginning; we can make a difference. And, if we do say “yes”, we can be assured that we will be empower with His Holy Spirit, making us channels of grace for the life of God to enter the world.3